Your 30-day journey to better boundaries.
How to Use This Playbook
This playbook is designed to be implemented gradually over 30 days. Each week introduces new habits while building on previous ones. Start with Week 1 basics and add more practices as you feel comfortable. Remember: progress over perfection.
Week 1: Foundation Setting
Day 1-3: Awareness Building
- Place a small notebook by your bed
- Each evening, write down three times you felt “too connected” today
- Note how this overconnection impacted your mood or presence
Day 4-7: Morning Minutes
- Keep your phone on airplane mode for the first 15 minutes after waking
- Use this time for:
- Three deep breaths
- Stretching or simple movement
- Stating one intention for the day
Weekend Task: Do a notification audit
- Review all app notifications
- Keep only essential alerts (eg. calendar, calls from key people)
- Delete one unnecessary app
Week 2: Creating Boundaries
Day 8-10: Time Blocking
- Identify your three most productive hours
- Mark these as “deep work” time in your calendar
- Turn off all notifications during these hours
- Start small: 30 minutes if one hour feels too much
Day 11-14: Transition Rituals
Choose one ritual to mark the end of your workday:
- A short walk around the block
- Three-minute breathing exercise
- Change of clothes
- Writing down tomorrow’s top three priorities
Weekend Task: Create device-free zones
- Designate one room or space as phone-free
- Put a small basket or box at the entrance
- Start with 30 minutes in this space daily
Week 3: Digital Detox Light
Day 15-17: Email Management
- Check email only 3 times daily
- Use template responses for common queries
- Enable “send later” for non-urgent emails
Day 18-21: Social Media Mindfulness
- Remove social media apps from your phone
- Access only via computer
- Set a 15-minute timer when browsing
Weekend Task: Create a “Joy List” Write down 10 non-digital activities that bring you joy:
- Reading a physical book
- Taking a walk
- Calling an old friend
- Choose one to do this weekend
Week 4: Deepening the Practice
Day 22-24: Relationship Focus
- Have one device-free meal daily
- Practice active listening without planning responses
- Make eye contact during conversations
Day 25-28: Personal Time Blocks
- Schedule two 30-minute blocks weekly for something you enjoy
- Mark these as important as any work meeting
- Share your boundaries with family/friends
Day 29-30: Reflection and Integration
- Review your journey
- Note which practices felt most helpful
- Choose your core three practices to maintain
Quick-Start Tools
Morning Reset Button
If you wake up and immediately check your phone:
- Put phone in another room before bed
- Buy a simple alarm clock
- Place a glass of water by your bed
- Make your first action drinking water, not checking notifications
Workday Boundaries
Create a “shutdown sequence”:
- Check calendar for tomorrow
- Write down top 3 priorities
- Clean desk/workspace
- Say out loud: “Work is done for today”
Evening Wind-Down
30 minutes before bed:
- All devices on airplane mode
- Dim lights
- Light stretching or reading
- Write down three good things from today
Emergency Protocol
When you feel overwhelmed:
- Take three deep breaths
- Ask: “Does this need my attention right now?”
- If no: Schedule it for later
- If yes: Set a timer for focused attention
- Return to your planned activities
Progress Tracking
Weekly check-in questions:
- What new boundary felt most challenging?
- Where did I feel most present?
- What difference did I notice in my:
- Energy levels?
- Relationship quality?
- Work effectiveness?
Maintenance Plan
After 30 days:
- Choose 3-5 core practices that worked best
- Schedule monthly boundary check-ins
- Create accountability with a friend or partner
- Celebrate small wins and progress
Remember: This is a marathon, not a sprint. Start with what feels manageable and build from there. Some days will flow better than others – that’s perfectly normal. The goal isn’t perfection but progress toward more intentional living.
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